Three Strategies for Raising Kids with Character

As a father of four kids, I want to address a great need in our world — kids with character.

I want my children to achieve greatness with their life. Kim and I have pushed them to succeed academically. We have encouraged each of them to flourish in an art and a sport. Many parents want their students to flourish in these ways, however, if they lack character, their success in other areas will leave them deeply flawed. Our nation doesn’t need any more educated brats or athletic punks. Our culture creates a challenging environment that feeds the narcissistic lusts of human nature making it a challenge to raise kids with character.

There are, however, some strategies to help you guide them in their character development.

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Inviting Chaos

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I’m in the people business. I try to help people do life well.

Over the years I have watched a trend (first in my own life), then in the lives of others. Most people want peace, however, far too may live with chaos. A quick trip through the news headlines or a Facebook timeline will bear this out. Almost weekly, I pause in my home and marvel at the peace we have. Now we have our battles with chaos (we have three teenagers and a nine-year-old) but we come out winners most of the time. Continue reading “Inviting Chaos”

Inviting Chaos

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Inviting Chaos

I’m in the people business. I try to help people do life well.

Over the years I have watched a trend (first in my own life), then in the lives of others. Most people want peace, however, far too may live with chaos. A quick trip through the news headlines or a Facebook timeline will bear this out. Almost weekly, I pause in my home and marvel at the peace we have. Now we have our battles with chaos (we have three teenagers and a nine-year-old) but we come out winners most of the time.

The fallenness of this world creates chaos. And living in this world will affect us. However, we can INVITE chaos into our lives. We invite chaos through ignoring reality. God created the universe to work a certain way. When we ignore this reality by flouting God’s principles, ignoring wise counsel, and selfish living, we say to chaos, “Please come and live with me.”

The Scriptures plainly tell us that God is not mocked. We reap what we sow. If we sow to the Spirit, we will reap life. If we sow to the wind, we will reap the whirlwind. The Proverbs tell us, “A man who remains stiff-necked after many rebukes will suddenly be destroyed.”

Life can be arranged into seven important categories:

  Faith – What we believe about God influences the rest of our beliefs. If you get this one right, you will walk with the peace knowing you are doing life with your Creator and Sustainer.

Attitude – We can choose our attitudes. If you have a good positive outlook, it will color the rest of your decisions. A life filled with hope, faith, love and a can-do spirit attracts peace. Winners find a way, whiners find an excuse.

Authority – Authority is everywhere and rebellion is painted as a glorious option. But rebellion steals discipline…and discipline brings freedom from chaos.

 Pleasure –More people are destroyed because they could not handle the pursuit of pleasure than are destroyed through the pain of adversity.

 Relationships and Sex – People matter and sex is a great gift, but a misuse of the people in our lives and the powerful, procreative gift of sex causes much pain and chaos.

Production – God made us to make a positive contribution to this world through our education, work, time, and money management. We can invite a lot of chaos into our lives by misappropriating our time and talents.

How we handle these seven critical areas will lead to either peace or chaos in our lives.

Making decisions that align with God’s will doesn’t make us immune to pain or chaos, but it certainly creates peace in our hearts and translates to a more stable life on the outside. In these chaotic times, a stable, peaceful life will be a great billboard toward the God we serve.

(For a full treatment of these topics, pick up a copy of Pursuing the Best, the How’s and Why’s of Living Life to the Fullest on Amazon)